September is National Recovery Month, which I honor annually with a blog on a topic related to addiction recovery. In deciding what to focus on this year I wanted to share my philosophy regarding the most important part of addiction treatment and recovery: connection! This is not a novel concept that I can take credit for, it’s based in research and also something that millions of people “in the rooms” already know about.

In a popular TED talk entitled “Everything You Think You Know About Addiction is Wrong,”  journalist Johann Hari reviews the available research on the underlying causes of addiction and concludes that the opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it’s connection. This is echoed by many other researchers and addiction experts.

Going back to the 1950s, psychologist John Bowlby studied small children separated from their parents. When infants, toddlers, and children had safe and reliable caregivers, they become well-adjusted and emotionally healthier than those who don’t experience secure attachment early in life. Bowlby discovered that without secure early attachments, humans were more vulnerable to addiction.

I’m grateful to be a part of many wonderful clients’ journeys who were extremely generous in sharing with me what part connection has played in their recoveries. Collectively, these women have over 75 years of recovery under the belts! Here is what they had to say:

“Recovery can often feel like a solitary journey, but my experience has shown me that connecting with others is essential. Engaging with like-minded individuals who understand the pain I’ve faced has been incredibly healing. These conversations remind me that I am not alone; there’s a community of people who share similar struggles. In sharing our stories, we create a bond that fosters belonging and mutual support, reinforcing the idea that vulnerability is a strength.

These connections have not only inspired me but have also redefined my understanding of recovery as a shared experience. Hearing others’ stories of resilience ignites hope and reminds me that setbacks are part of the journey. I am grateful for the connections I’ve had, as they illuminate the path ahead and emphasize that healing is possible. If you’re navigating a similar path, I encourage you to seek out those who resonate with your experiences—you may find the strength that comes from knowing you’re not alone”.

“Connection has created a network of people that are also in recovery-I’ve found people who share my common interest & passion for recovery.  I’ve got true friends now which is all I ever wanted in active use but never truly had.

This thing works as a “we” instead of “me”.  I need people who can show me how life is done in recovery.  I need support and I need to give it back too.  It all started for me in 12 step meetings & it’s grown in many different circles but 12 steps was my foundation & still my home.  Don’t let the “god” stuff freak you out! Addiction = Isolation and Recovery = Connection”.

“I didn’t feel all alone in the fact that I had problems that I felt were shameful and also somehow knew they were sick/not normal. Listening and sharing with other along the journey has really helped my self-esteem and to fuel my courage to continue my journey.  I then knew that I was not alone and it helped give strength and courage to strive for better habits/behaviors”.

“Connection is the key to recovery. In the first days of my recovery, my sponsor made me call three women from the home group list every morning. I was a bit baffled by that and asked her what I was supposed to say? She told me just call them and tell them you’re new and your sponsor made you call and everything will happen from there. Then my sponsor made me the greeter at the door. I have no idea what that was but as people came in, and I said welcome and introduced myself they got to know me before I knew it. I was going to different meetings all throughout the town where I first got sober and people were saying hi to me. Those are your people.

As I became connected with those folks I was calling and greeting, I developed a group of women in my life who like me had small children and similar interests and I was able to spend time with them outside the meetings. These women from AA were true friends- if I was going to move, a dozen people showed up with a moving truck unlike when I was drinking and “friends” were supposed to show up and help but nobody ever did. I travel my journey of recovery. My sponsor also encouraged me to develop a relationship with a higher power that today I call God (in the beginning I was very angry with God  and wanted no part of God, but as I grew in AA, I grew in my faith). I have a connection with my higher power that I never dreamed was possible. Every morning and every night I hit my knees and I thank God for another sober day. Connections in the rooms of AA have taught me that there’s so much more to life than sitting at a bar! I’ve done amazing things with the women in the program and the social activities that are out there. Without connection to God and to the women of AA, I would not be alive today”.

“Connection in recovery has given me the family I never had. It’s people that accept me where I’m at no matter what.  It’s tough love when I need it the most. It’s giving me a sense of belonging and knowing I’m never alone.  It’s people that love me until I can love myself.

Build your network.  Get all the numbers you can.  Go to meetings. Talk to people.   Keep coming back.  Get a sponsor. You can’t have too many people in your corner. It does get easier.  There is nothing you have done (or nothing anybody has done to you) that has not already been done.  We have all been at day 1.  You can’t get 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, 20 years, etc. without day 1. Just stay clean/sober for today.  One day at a time.  We will worry about tomorrow, tomorrow.  If all you did was stay clean and sober today, you’ve done something right!  Do not try and do it alone”.

Kelly Broadwater, LPA, LCMHC, CEDS-C is the Executive Director of Chrysalis Center and has been treating co-occurring substance use disorders and eating disorders for over 20 years. She is grateful to all the women who’ve been willing to share their wisdom, strength, and hope in this blog and beyond.

To watch the TED talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/johann_hari_everything_you_think_you_know_about_addiction_is_wrong?subtitle=en

To get connected to area recovery groups:

https://sober.com/aa-meeting/wilmington-area-intergroup/

https://aanorthcarolina.org/meetings/

https://celebraterecovery.com/

https://wilmingtonncal-anon.org/find-a-meeting

https://adultchildren.org/meeting-search/

Grateful Ground Counseling has a monthly Connections group: https://gratefulgroundcounseling.clientsecure.me/

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By: Mikayla Alberico, social work intern at Chrysalis Center

Social workers apply values and skills set forth by the National Association of Social Works Code of Ethics to help individuals, families, groups, and communities to enhance well-being, help meet basic needs, and cope with social, emotional, behavioral, and health concerns. They abide by six ethical principles: service, social justice, dignity and worth of the person, importance of human relationships, integrity, and competence. Social Workers emphasize a holistic, strengths-based approach in which they assist in improving clients biological, psychological, social, spiritual, and cultural functioning.  

The key difference between Social Workers and other helping professionals is that a “Social Worker’s primary goal is to help people in need and to address social problems” (NASW, 2021). Social Workers hold service to others above self-interest in pursuit of social change. They care for people, while always having cultural humility. They believe that clients are the experts in their own lives and that everyone has individual strengths within them that will help them to learn, grow, and change.  

Social Workers work in many different areas. They can practice at any level, from social and political advocacy to individual therapeutic care. You can find them working in private practices, hospitals, child welfare, schools, community organizations, and even holding political offices. Social Workers are there for you, to help you become whoever you want to be.  

References:  

National Association of Social Workers. (2021). NASW Code of Ethics. March 19th, 2024. https://www.socialworkers.org/About/Ethics/Code-of-Ethics/Code-of-Ethics-English  

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By Meghan Shapiro

The pride I feel about being a part of the Chrysalis Team is not something I keep close to my chest. I am so proud to be a part of such a knowledgeable, compassionate, conscientious team. Every day I experience renewed excitement about the potential for growth and healing within a safe environment that exists at Chrysalis. The truth is, however, that there is an underrecognized part of our treatment team.  

This weekend, while reflecting on the week before, I found myself filled with gratitude for our administrative staff and I realized that they are way overdue recognition for the contributions they make to the Chrysalis Team. They regularly, daily, go above and beyond to ensure clients at Chrysalis receive the care they need. Not just by scheduling appointments and working through insurance/payment questions but by paying attention and caring. They really do care and their contributions are too often taken for granted.  

Last week, I was able to support a client who needed it because an administrative staff member recognized this client’s need and reached out to me without being asked to do so by the client. Intuiting client needs is not part of their job description. It is a reflection of commitment to Chrysalis Clients. 

Clinicians can be pretty needy with schedule changes that sometimes come without much forewarning. Our administrative staff responds to those needs with patience and thoroughness, ensuring both the clinician and client needs are met. I know that is not an easy task and am so thankful for the grace with which they do it.  

Despite the daily hassles we cause for them, the administrative office at Chrysalis is always a place clinicians are greeted with kindness and genuine interest in how we are doing. I hope our administrative team knows how much that can impact clinician’s days in a positive way.  

I want our administrative staff to know that we see their commitment and hard work. That we know they are an integral part of the Chrysalis experience. That we appreciate them every day.  

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